I am going to go out on a limb and assume that most of you have had a crush on a person at some point in your life. So you are pretty familiar with a "crush". They call it that because you pretty much end up like this coke can here. You obsess over this person. You get butterflies everytime you see them. They can pretty much do NO wrong. You justify everything they do to manipulate the facts so that you still think there might be hope that this person could possibly return your feelings. In the end, they usually don't and your hopes as well as your feelings...and usually your self-esteem end up "crushed". Hence the name.
Are we all clear on that? Good. Now let me explain a term less well known but one I am very very fond of. A crinkle. Yes you heard me right. Fortunately, I have not had a crush since I was 21yrs old but I do at times harbor a crinkle. What the heck is a crinkle? Let me enlighten you.
A crinkle is a low level crush but more than a passing interest. A crinkle can dissipate as quickly as it develops. It is an interest in someone but not one with a deep emotional connection. A crinkle can be eradicated if that person says or does something stupid, doesn't reciprocate the interest, etc... Your hopes are not pinned on this person and you do not need to build them up or justify their actions. It is possible, and highly likely, that a person will have more than one crinkle at a time. If things don't work out you just move on. Much like this piece of paper. It's crinkled, but smooth it out a little and it's still usable. Unlike the crushed can.
The reason for this post? I was confessing a crinkle a few weeks ago to a good friend and she was not even sure what I meant...so hopefully I have cleared up any confusion between the terms. :) Crinkles are far less exhausting. But they are also not as exciting. And maybe a little more confusing- since your feelings can change from hour to hour. So, if you suffer from either I wish you luck!
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